Though we are living in unprecedented abundance, many of us experience scarcity, and money appears to be the source of it. In capitalism relationship to money is designed around control. Accounting, spreadsheets, debit and credit.
Control is implicitly needed because there´s too much desire and there´s too little of resources. Control is a rationale, which is a matter of course and needs not to be discussed. Control is one of the main building blocks of the Patriarchal prison, so close to our skin that we cannot see a different option of relating to money. Control is a shadow principle. It is rooted in the survival ego states.
How could relating to the moneyworld evolve in an adult way, and not out of survival?
How does it go, being conscious and radically responsible concerning money?
How to refrain from control of money?
How to relate with money from a different point of origin?
How to get out of the mindset of scarcity?
If I am radically responsible, I am money.
I am what I earn and what I spend and how I do it.
I am the results.
I went into a one-week experiment of no money control at all.
No counting change, no checking accounts, no money worries, not comparing bargains.
I set the intention, and then let go of expecting any result.
Here's what happened in my experiment
Very practically, when doing my monthly taxes I realized that I am co-player in the gameworld of citizenship, and since I am in that game, taxes are one of the rules I´m playing along. I accept that I still cannot live fully from my nonmaterial value exchange. By getting clarity about what is, my resistance relaxed and I got through the paperwork fast and efficiently. It was a flow experience, bathing in numbers with no meaning.
With a client, who didn’t pay his bills, his and my Gremlin interaction and particularly my victim behaviour showed up painfully. I was clinging at the virtual money I did not get.
In the identitiy of an experimenter I communicated my decision, to not work with him any more, and held my energetic sword at his throat - the money flowed in immediately.
On spending.
It was difficult to escape the calculating consumerist mindset. Minimalist questions were helpful to find the doors out of the capitalist construct.
What is the purpose of my buying?
Do I need the item - or do I want it?
Can I borrow the thing / mend something old / upcycle something?
How about resources, producing conditions, transportation, disposal, life cycle cost of the thing I want to spend money on?
Do I still want to own the thing, when I think about all the hidden costs and the debts that I postpone to my daughter's generation?
In the end: does my consuming spark joy?
Being money is not about wishful thinking, or demanding abundance from the Universe.
Being money is practical and simple: when being aware of the big picture in Radical Responsibility, all Low Drama sticks out from the beautifully woven background. When questioning the purpose of every action, survival mindset reveals itself.
There is a fluidity around money. It is coming and going like the waves at a beach. Becoming aware and consciously stopping the mind to grasp the concept of scarcity, you could catch a glimpse of oceanlike moving abundance.
An Experiment
For one week, chose one of the questions above and carry it at the center of your quest.
How does it impact your relationship with the world of money?
I am curious about your research. Write to me about what you found out.
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